We never know what to say to the person going through a divorce. Some will say "I’m very sorry to hear that", "How are you doing?" or "Congratulations!" Whether the divorce is welcomed or you feel like your heart has been ripped out, there is a significant adjustment phase. Sometimes people feel like "damaged goods" and may say to themselves "I’ll never trust men/women again." Negative thinking is common and keeps the person stuck. Psychotherapists generally agree that divorces are extremely stressful but can be survived with support and specific coping strategies. Often talking it out with a support person helps manage the stress and move the adjustment progress forward.